From About News Civil Rights section,
Definition: Transphobia is an irrational fear of, and/or hostility towards, people who are transgender or who otherwise transgress traditional gender norms. Because lesbians and gay men often transgress gender norms, it is often associated with homophobia.
The most direct victims of transphobia are people who are transsexual--those who are labeled one sex at birth but transition into another sex later.
Pay attention to that last part because it is true even among the so called trans communities. Most non trans people (I refuse to use that ridiculous invention word "cis") would take it as evidence of transphobia the refusal to accept the womanhood of a transitioned transsexual and they would be right. Where they get suckered is when some random trans-person makes such an accusation against the very people who are the poster children for "trans", post surgically corrected women of transsexual history. And this is not only common, it is practically universal with the current generation of so called trans-activists. They flatly refuse to acknowledge the womanhood of those with female bodies and identities who were born transsexed or intersexed. They will tell her she is forever male because she has an Y chromosome, that her vagina is just an inverted penis, that she can never be a "real" woman because she lacks a uterus and more. How can I say this? I can because this has happened to me, not once or twice but literally hundreds of times and I have personally witnessed it done to dozens like me in public blogs....by so called trans activists who actually hate post surgical women for escaping the "transgender" pot.
Amazing isn't it. But it is true. Let a post surgical woman say she has now cured her transsexual condition and is just plain woman like every other woman and these trans-activists will move heaven and earth to deny her that. Violence is common, death threats are common, attempts to utterly destroy her life are common. This would include physical abuse, verbal abuse, "outting" to spouses and employers, slander, libel and much more.
So when you hear someone called transphobic, stop, ask yourself what is behind it. If it is a woman of transsexual history being called transphobic, the real transphobe is likely the one making the accusation, not the victim. Ask yourself can it actually be more gynophobic as well as transphobic to do this to a post surgical woman and if they are willing to do this to them, what are their true feelings towards non trans women?
This issue is much more complicated than most realize.
I founded the Cybeline Revival with a woman of transsexual history. I was born a true hermaphrodite and surgically assigned male at birth and had to correct that later in life. I, personally, recovered the role of the transsexual priestesses in the Mother Goddess traditions of the ancient world and wrote about it........ now I am a transphobe? Really? You bought that?
Who's the real transphobe here.
I did not want to have to write this, I left the trans battlegrounds years ago but when this crap is spreading within the Pagan communities and tearing them apart, I cannot maintain silence.
Post Script added 9/4
We have been trolled here and on Facebook because of this accusation that the Maetreum of Cybele is transphobic. To be perfectly clear, the Maetreum has always welcomed all trans and gender queer people and men to participate fully in all our rituals and events since it's founding. At issue is one of the requirements to be a priestess in our tradition is being female bodied AND identified. That anyone feels they have the right to dictate to us who we accept into a very limited sisterhood of priestesses is beyond offensive. Half of that circle of priestesses consists of women of trans or intersexed history.